People with a traumatized inner child often grow up into emotional abusers…
We assume a full grown adult is going to behave as one…
THAT’S absolutely not true!
They are only masquerading in life as adults…and that’s frightening because you can’t tell at first.
They create burdens for others…and then run away like a scared child…because thats what they actually are…emotionally juvenile.
Emotional abusers have the emotional maturity and integrity of a toddler but inflict harm like an adult…THAT is a very dangerous combination.
It’s like handing a weapon to a toddler…and hoping for the best.
We All have a scared inner child but we are ALL not abusive.
Two kids grown up in the same household can develop 2 very different coping mechanisms styles depending on their own personalities.
But just as we learned as children…there are repercussions for everything we do.
You can’t go around destroying people’s life without repercussions…
Some can get away with things for a long time…because they have a bullying mentality…they get their way by pushing their weight around…because no one holds them accountable…and simply because they can…until you mess with the wrong one.
All Bullies will eventually meet their match who will not accept their abuse…silently.
That’s just the way of the Universe.
We get what we give…
We have a 4 year old special little girl who is fiercely protective of herself and others…she puts all the bullies in place with her hand…in their face…she’s my little hero.
She’s Gods little protector…of herself and others.
Our inner child is moulded by our experiences as a child…mostly before 8 years of age…when we are most vulnerable and dependent on our caregivers.
Children blindly trust their caregivers.
***Please don’t do that as adults…trust SHOULD be earned not dispersed willy nilly like Halloween Candy…just because they rang your doorbell***
EVERYTHING we do after that plays out as a way of tending to that inner child core wound.
Core wounds tend to be things like a sense of not being enough, of being unlovable to a parent, of feeling stupid, dirty, unwanted, or ugly…etc.
Children who grow up in unstable environments have an abandonment core wound.
Narcissistic caregivers create these wounds and then mangle your core wound as long as you allow it.
Well…all narcissists will abuse you as long as you allow it…till you abandon them.
They too have the same abandonment wound…but deal with it differently…
Isn’t that ironic…they trigger your abandonment wound by toggling in and out of the situationshit until you do just that…to them!
You get what you give…
Recognizing your core wound and completely abandoning the Narcissists in your life is the ONLY way to start your healing journey process.
This cycle plays out ALL throughout your life…within ALL your relationships until you become aware of your core wound…
Your inner child just wants to be heard…she’s got her hand in your face!
‘We are only given as much we can handle’.
As cruel as this⏫️ sentence sounds to me…there’s truth in it.
Some can handle a lot more because they receive a lot more help from Above ⏫️
Like my little 4 year old bully repellent…she may not have the words…but she sure as hell can put her hand in your face to STOP you.
YOU are that bully repellent for your inner child…
YOU are her protector…
THAT is your ONLY job in this life…protecting yourself and not further traumatizing that little person inside you.
