Most emotional abusers will NEVER apologize…because they don’t really care about what they did to you or how it affects your soul.
Some will…but ONLY when they are cornered.
You get to decide…
Is this a one time event or is this a pattern…is THIS who this person is.
The one’s who refuse to apologize are not willing to take accountability for their actions…that too is a pattern.
A very toxic harmful pattern.
They feel entitled to do as they please.
When you apologize for something you are admitting to fault and claiming responsibility for your behaviors…you won’t get that from an emotional abuser.
They do that intentionally because when there are no apologies there’s ‘unfinished’ business…it leaves the door open for them to come back again…that’s human nature.
It is also emotionally abusive to hold people hostage with your toxic behaviors.
YOU forgiving people and overlooking bullshit repetitively…is also a pattern…that’s what emotional abusers look for to abuse.
So check yourself…over-apologizing for something you did not do or repetitive forgiveness is a learned pattern from your upbringing…it is a trauma response…you only draw in manipulators…people who will violate that quality.
People who fuck you over repetitively don’t deserve your forgiveness.
Learn to apologize and forgive the right people…people who deserve it.
Learn to shut that door on emotional abusers!
It doesn’t mean ANYTHING if you are forgiving people repetitively for things THEY do repetitively…because…YES you are right…that too is a pattern…a very toxic pattern…on your part.
Even if you only notice them doing it to others and have convinced yourself that they would NEVER do that to you…they WILL eventually do it to you…you are right again… because it is THEIR pattern.
It will happen again…so will the apology…that’s why it’s called a pattern.
**YOU are not the exception to THEIR rule** you only think you are!
