Suppressed emotions…
Suppressing emotions over a lifetime turns our minds into a toxic self imprisonment.
This behavior is perpetuated in relationships.
People who are unable to feel, express, articulate their emotions will suppress them out of necessity, fear of expression or habit for self preservation.
This may be a learned behavior as a child…usually with parents who feel and speak for the child or shut them down.
Some parents over coddle to protect the child…both are a disservice to the child.
They were not allowed to have or to express their own emotions…so they never learned how to balance their own emotions…or even feel them…or express them…so they fester into toxic suppressed energy over time.
We ALL suppress emotions to protect ourselves from hurt or being vulnerable.
Hopefully we learn to balance out emotions by actually feeling them, expressing them, crying them out, or rechanneling them with some creative or active outlet to release them.
Most people operate in this way subconsciously. It is a coping mechanism to survive pain.
The more you suppress emotions the more toxic it gets.
Suppressing our emotions has the opposite effect of healing.
Emotions…positive or negative have to have an outlet.
Suppressed emotions also turn into physical ailments and disease over time…so find a way to express them.
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In extreme cases people who have chronically suppressed emotions as a learned childhood habit to protect and hide their vulnerabilities and insecurities tend to manipulate people’s emotions to accommodate their own toxic need.
They would rather hurt people’s feelings and betray people’s trust to protect their own vulnerabilities…so they don’t have to feel ‘hurt’ themselves.
In ‘relationships’ these are the kind of people who will toggle in and out to balance their own emotional confusion.
They will leave you as confused as they are.
You will find these kind of entanglements very immature and childish because they are actually a child looking for a parent to soothe their frustration. You cannot have a successful adult relationship with a person with juvenile toddler-like reactions and responses.
They are looking for other people to balance, stabilize and feel their emotions like their parent did.
This way they can keep their emotions suppressed and protected while disrupting EVERYONE else’s flora and fauna.
It brings them a sense of relief…a temporary fix.
People who inflict pain on others are people who have endured even worse trauma than what they are trying to inflict onto you.
Pain or trauma if not processed and transmuted correctly is suppressed into toxic energy and will be projected onto others.
Narcissists notoriously use this technique to control relationships…they feel if they can control someone’s emotions they have control of the ‘relationship’.
Suppressing positive emotions from your partner keeps them in a painful tailspin.
They use mind games as a means of manipulation and silent treatments as a form of punishment.
They will gladly dump all their own suppressed emotional baggage onto you to take on as your own…so they don’t have to deal with it themselves.
It’s a tried and true method for them…because it works.
Narcissists live their life in a toxic self imprisonment and try to drag you into their Hell to make you feel as they are feeling.
There is a difference between making a ‘mistake’ as opposed to cruel intentional manipulative actions to harm another.
We ALL have the free will to make choices every day…we can choose to act with integrity or we can choose to not.
THAT is what determines your character.
Narcissistic people are emotionally juvenile and lack integrity.
It’s the only way they know how to operate and to survive.
PS.
A positive reassurance to my Co-survivors in recovery.
If you can survive their Hell…you are strong enough to survive the recovery process…as daunting, painful and as arduously slow of a journey as it is.
The end rewards are well worth the journey.
***The more you know***
