EVERYONE has a dark side and a light side…we learn to balance them by our morals, principles, values, integrity etc.
Emotionally unbalanced, deviant or toxic people also have light sides but don’t have these checks and balances to fall back on…there is an imbalance…they easily get drawn to operate from their dark side…their boundaries are blurry.
Initially everyone is drawn to the light in the people that we meet.
The greater the light the greater the attraction…the longer we stay.
Sometimes we get attached to the light and refuse to acknowledge the dark…that’s what gets us in trouble.
Darker energies are the most drawn to the light…like bugs to the light…same concept.
The trick is to go to the light(not the eternal kind) but don’t ignore the dark when we do experience it.
Toxic people, emotionally unbalanced people have more dark energies than light…they find it hard to balance out their dark and light sides.
They are more likely to hurt you than people who are more emotionally balanced.
They don’t mistreat all the time and they don’t mistreat EVERYONE.
They pick and choose who they mistreat…it’s a conscious choice.
If someone is abusive ALL the time…no one would stay around them.
We see that misleading ‘light’ and hang on to it…ignoring the dark.
They would NEVER do that to us…right?
WRONG!!!
Darker energies usually hang around people who can benefit them in some way…like bugs to light.
If you show them your strong boundaries you will see their stinger…you don’t benefit them anymore.
Sometimes you see these behaviors directed towards other people…don’t ignore this either…you are not the exception to their rule…it’s only a matter of time…you will get to experience it.
The same goes with liars…if you see someone lying to others…it’s only a matter of time they will lie to you…you are not the exception to their rule.
The same with cheaters…if they cheat with you they are capable of cheating on you.
You are not the exception to their rule…you only think you are.
They find ‘comfort’ in their own bad behaviors…it’s their defense mechanism.
Don’t ignore the fact that the ‘dark’ in them is overpowering.
That little ‘light’ fades away at some point.
People’s bad behaviors usually take off from their last worse experience with you…it’s always ‘progressive’. It always gets worse.
Lying, dishonesty and aggression are ingrained qualities…it is who they are.
You can’t make them change…for YOU.
You just have to acknowledge them for what they are.
You can extend grace to them (preferably from afar) but not to your detriment…and know when to withdraw.
Russian Roulette in the dark…
Do you have to keep guessing if you are going to experience Dr. Jekyll or Mr. Hyde?
You are now playing Russian Roulette with your own sanity.
Are you willing to pull that trigger to find that out each time?
