Living My New Reality
Triangulation is a manipulation tactic whereby one person will introduce a third person into the dynamic...usually an ex or any third party to create a sense of competition to vie for their attention and affection.Sometimes there are multiple players and you may not know they exist.Sometimes you may not even be the actual target in focus...but you were just introduced
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Your interaction with a Narcissist...is ALL about YOU.This is a self-actualization journey.It has nothing to do with the narcissist...and has EVERYTHING to do with YOU.And that's the good news because that means YOU are in total control of your outcome.Chances are you have come across many such people in your lifetime but just didn't know it and you still will
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How many times a day do we give in to something or someone?How many times did it give us a good outcome...a pleasurable feeling😑😔🤨The very fact that we used the term 'giving in' substanciates the fact that we are doing something we are not completely convinced of doing.Of course we all HAVE to do obligatory stuff...where we have no choice...like
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A huge part of this lesson for me...I had to learn to let go.I attached myself to the good I saw in people and held onto it tooth and nail.How could I let go of someone I loved?THAT was not even a thought in my head...EVER!!! That was the way I lived my entire life.I was determined to hang on
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Healing from Narcissistic Abuse is like grieving a death...your own.I count the entire 'relationship' as part of my healing process as well...because the 'nonsense' started in the first month...the rest was just further eroding of my emotional wellbeing.Start to finish almost 6 years of a very tough journey.2 years of a very emotionally damaging experience and almost 4 years in
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Does a label really matter...I've spent a lot of time researching a mental disorder because I needed to understand what I went through and why I went through such an experience.It has been an eye opening experience, an awakening experience, a soul healing experience...one that I do not regret at all...from start to end...but only in hind sight.I call it
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Sometimes we have to bear the consequences of other people's mistakes.That is a very hard pill to swallow.We ALL have been on either side of THAT fence.We may have been the one who made the mistake or we may be the one who are the recipient of the mistake or bad judgement call of others.All we can do is accept
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If you don't have a matching set of core values, morals, principles and beliefs between 2 people you could still have a relationship with them but it would be a constant struggle.You can't build anything on an uneven foundation.That would be living in an illusion of what you wish for something to be like.Idealization of an illusion.Believing in an illusion
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June 1stNarcissistic Abuse Awareness Day. A Narcissist should come with a Warning Label...like a Heat Missile. ☆Will Seek and Destroy☆ Or fizzle out trying... ~Paula Pearl~ One Billion of the World's population are afflicted with Narcissistic Personality Disorder. A Narcissistic Abuser is a nasty wake up call from blissful ignorance...a tough lesson to learn in the cruelest of ways. Narcissistic Personality
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Actions ALWAYS speak louder than words.We ALL love to hear sweet words, kind words, loving words, reassuring words.There is a place to express feelings with words but they have to be backed up by actions...otherwise they are just words...words are a dime a dozen.If your words do not match your actions you are trying to manipulate the situation.Emotionally manipulative people's
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