By Paula Pearl

Having integrity means doing the right thing in a reliable way…even when NO one is watching. It's a personality trait that we admire, since it means a person has a moral compass that doesn't waver. It literally means having "wholeness" of character There have been many eye opening moments in…

Now...my own story sounds so preposterous to me.With my blinders off...I can now see the WHOLE picture.Once the cognitive dissonance faded and I started seeing clearly...I wondered...how did I allow ALL this crap into my life and be ok with it. This is how...It's life long grooming...Life long grooming by…

Even a Narcissist serves a purpose...they are our BEST teachers.They are sent into your life to poke at your vulnerabilities.They too are soul mates sent to expose wounds for you to heal. Band-aids won't work anymore...It's major surgery.People are sent into your lives to mirror your core wounds to you.(not…

A cliché we randomly use.I learned the REAL meaning of that cliché. Naively and without discernment...I placed my trust in the hands of the wrong undeserving person who had no intention of protecting my heart or valuing my soul or my life. I felt I died....From humiliation and embarrassment.Because I…

There are no winners or losers when people resort to playing mind games in relationships...just chaos and confusion...but there are always consequences.People leverage manipulative mind games in relationships for control.Most manipulators know what they are doing...it's a tried and true technique.Very few don't realize they are doing it.They use manipulation…

How long and to what extent can we betray our own selves.Sometimes it's a whole lifetime if we are living in denial inside an illusion. For me...I allowed someone to pick me up and throw me out of car because he didn't want to be accountable for some thing he…

I wrote this article 2 years ago for a Narcissistic Support Forum...when I was spinning in the tornado.I am not in that place anymore... Thankfully.It's a harrowing, diabolical, cruel, mind boggling, insane experience.I managed to rescue and save my own self with my research and my own effort. This is…

Passion or Lust is a powerful emotion....one of the strongest emotions we can experience.It's a Primal emotion. Having Passion for someone is not always a positive thing.Passion can actually be quite selfish and destructive...unless it is accompanied with love and respect.Passion without love and respect...dies...quickly. People who confuse passion for…

A safe relationship is one where you feel seen, heard, supported, valued, loved, cherished, you can be vulnerable and share your feelings. Lack of safety in a relationship occurs when you feel manipulated, gaslighted(bullshitted), minimized, dismissed, devalued, trivialize, unable to express your feelings...out of fear. A safe environment is a…

You see peoples true self during conflict or adversity. How well people handle conflict will let you know how successful a partnership will be. If they are avoidant and dismissive and blame you for everything...or run away...that's how life is going to be with this person...don't expect that things will…