No Contact with the Narcissists in your life is a permanent lifestyle decision in order to maintain your physical and emotional health.
It is an imperative necessity for your healing…so is a period of solitude to ‘hear’ yourself think clearly so you can neutralize the cognitive dissonance that their emotional manipulations created.
I try to understand ALL perspectives…
MINE had to take priority….
The Narcissist is not allowed to walz in and out of my life ever again…although he tried.
He is blocked for good reason.
The damage they bring into people’s lives by their mere presence is so great…there’s no room for just friends or just acquaintances or just fuck buddies or hanging around in same social circles…
***You cannot heal in the same environment or mindset that caused the damage***
I had to a eliminate the whole ‘common’ social circle because they couldn’t understand how seriously I took my healing…
Why would they…
This did’nt happen to them…
It’s not their life…it’s MINE!
What they experienced in public was the same fun clown that I too met at first…then I got to experience the REAL Sadistic abuser…they didn’t!
I had to hop off that Clown Mobile…to Save my Soul.
I take NO CONTACT very seriously…there are absolutely NO EXCEPTIONS.
I take my mental and physical health very seriously and THAT is my ONLY priority.
Sometimes no contact is very hard if you have ties to those people like kids, finances, property, wedding ring etc…functioning as a noose around your neck…
I consider myself fortunate…
I have none!
So it was a fairly ‘simple’ decision for me.
***People dismissing and minimizing your feelings is the reason why survivors of emotional abuse are in this position that they are in***
Make yourself a priority.
Other random people are not your priority.
***They are not obligated to prioritize your feelings and you are not obligated to prioritize theirs at the risk of compromising your own***
But YOU ARE required to prioritize yourself…
You have to prioritize saving your own Soul…
Remember what you went through and why you are in the position you are in.
Surround yourself with people who make you a priority as much as they expect from you!
Not everyone will and that’s ok…
But if they do…those are your peeps.
Sometimes YOU understanding YOU and YOUR own decisions is more than enough…
That means you are not looking for outside validation…it ALL comes from within YOU…
THAT’S your best case scenario on your healing journey 👏
This whole experience was truly a Gift 🎁 handed to me…even though it came in a dark package…
I love Gifts…and I’m a great packer and unpacker😉🙃
But what I found inside that dark package was incredible…and THAT was my Gift 🎁
If you can find healing on your own…you are one badddaass mf**king Rockstar ⭐️😉 🫶
