People who have been hurt find it very difficult to commit.
For good reason.
Once bitten twice shy.
Unless they work on their pain and trauma and get rid of the baggage…without dropping it on to some one else’s lap…it’s going to reappear…its not going to disappear just because you want it to.
It’s takes a lot of effort and courage to heal.
A hurt heart is a closed heart…plus the past reappears over and over till it’s resolved…that is the cruel reality.
Going from one person to another hoping they will heal your broken heart is painful for everyone involved…it is also irresponsible.
Broken hearts take time to heal. Don’t make it some one else’s problem.
Just as you can not heal a broken bone with a bandaid…you can not heal a broken heart by making it some one else’s responsibility…it’s a bandaid…the wound will resurface in both cases.
At our age…we all have been hurt…our hearts broken.
Opening our hearts…making ourselves vulnerable for more pain…is a daunting task.
Learn to use your wisdom and your discernment…know the difference.
Wisdom is the ability to think and act using knowledge, experience, understanding, common sense and insight.
Discernment is the quality of being able to grasp and comprehend what is obscure and not obvious.
Discernment is your intuition and wisdom is your knowledge.
Learn to use your intuition…it is NEVER wrong.
You may interpret it wrong…but it is NEVER wrong.
Most people argue with their intuition…you are not going to be able to make something wrong…right…no matter how hard you try….you can’t put a square peg into a round hole.
Set your feet in reality.
What you are feeling and hoping for may not even be reality.
Learn…discern…rinse and repeat.
It’s your best strategy……
