Red Flags…by definition.
Something your partner does that indicates a lack of respect, integrity or interest towards the relationship.
It’s a sign that a person will turn out to be (or is) a problematic partner.
I didn’t know about red flags…
Till at 51 I was ‘happily sitting’ with a person who wore a neon green hat full of red flags and I still ignored them.
I was trying to curl them and make them look pretty.
How strange is that…going through life not ever paying attention to any…not because they weren’t there…but because I didn’t know what they were.
They had to accumulate them ALL in one place and set them ablaze for me to notice them and pay attention.
I’ve learned…
People are who they are…allow them that…but you don’t have to participate…it’s as simple as that.
If I want people to remember me warmly and speak warmly about me I will treat them warmly…it’s as simple as that.
Forgiving myself for not paying attention to the HUGE red flags was the hardest part of my recovery and also most eye opening because through that process I had to take accountability of my own participation and had to question my own belief system that allowed me to stay in such an uncomfortable situation.
I didn’t pay attention to the red flags and I got screwed…it’s as simple as that.
You would stop at a red traffic light…wouldn’t you…
Red flags present themselves for a purpose…
They are presented for you to STOP!!!
It’s as simple as that.
