Are you bothered or triggered when you are called a Narcissist?
Why do you think you are you being called that…
Are you a liar, entitled, lacking empathy, superficial, arrogant, disloyal, unfaithful, dismissive, rude, unkind, egocentric, emotionally manipulative, controlling, aggressive explosive temper, attention seeking, stingy as fuck…duality…abusive and rude indoors…but a pure pleasure to be around in public.
These are ALL only personality traits…these are people’s observations as the recipient of these bad behaviors.
Could it be possible that’s what you are?
Because this is how you show up in a relationship…this is how you behave.
Narcissism is just a bunch of dysfunctional defense mechanisms…just a bunch of toxic coping skills.
You cannot really diagnose narcissistic personality disorder…just like there’s no diagnosis for stubbornness, rudeness, mean spiritedness, unkindness, emotional immaturity, inconsistent behaviors…etc…these are all just personality traits.
The very essence of a narcissist is that they are shape shifters…they behave differently for EVERYONE.
Taking them to a therapist is like putting them on stage for another performance.
You as the recipient of their foul behaviors get to experience the ‘real’ person…these are observations from YOU as the recipient.
Don’t act surprised when someone calls you a narcissist…these are the traits YOU display…THIS is YOU!
It may work for your public life…it may even help you in your work environment…but do your behaviors make you successful in your personal life?
It may get you far in your career…Donald…but your personal life gonna suck big donkey dicks.
If people call you an arsehole…you must have given them a good reason to call you that.
If people call you a narcissist…it’s because you are displaying those traits.
Even if you call your own self a dick or arsehole or bitch…it’s because you already know you are one.
Bottom line….
As the recipient of such a person’s bad treatment…you should ask yourself..
Do you really deserve to be treated in such a way…
Is it your job to teach a full grown adult basic human decency skills…
Do you really want to continue to expose yourself to such a person.
No need to be a martyr or a Savior…
Jesus already applied for that job and got it!
Narcissist or not…at the very minimum…they can qualify as an AAP…Abusive Arsehole Personality.
There you go…there’s a diagnosis!
Put that in the DSM-5.
Are you in denial of how badly you treat your partners…because your partners ain’t in denial…
They are in therapy recovering from YOUR denial!
PS…
If you shed light on their tangled web of deceit…you are a significant threat to their carefully crafted false sense of identity…their fake persona is shattered.
NOTHING WORSE than destroying a Narcissists big fat fragile ego.
Once exposed their fear of further humiliation will forever keep them at bay…they are aware that their game is OVER.
You haven’t stopped them from pursuing other targets…you have just stopped them from targeting YOU!
Be grateful!
