You see peoples true self during conflict or adversity.
How well people handle conflict will let you know how successful a partnership will be.
If they are avoidant and dismissive and blame you for everything…or run away…that’s how life is going to be with this person…don’t expect that things will be better next time around…it won’t.
If they they have an explosive temper…they are emotionally unstable…this is how life is going to be with this person.
If they are childish and irresponsible…or cruel…that’s how life is going to be with this person.
If someone doesn’t bother to make the time to break up with you in person and does it over the phone or text…don’t bother to make anymore time for them.
It’s a big red flag of a cowardly person who lacks integrity.
You should not even reconsider such a person.
Remember…this is a pattern…it will repeat over and over.
Integrity does not just show up miraculously in someone…it is an inherent quality…you either have it or you don’t…this is how life will be with this person.
If you are agreeable, unassertive and take their crap…you have just established a pattern with your partner…this is how life is going to be with this person.
Being able to handle conflict with your partner in a successful manner will determine the success of the relationship.
We all have our down days of being easily triggered…that happens to the best of us.
But if you find that there is a pattern…and your partner is unable to resolve conflict effectively or apologize when needed…pay heed to this red flag.
It is a red flag of emotional immaturity, and an uncompromising personality…this is how life is going to be with this person.
We ALL do things in patterns…we ALL repeat our patterns…pay attention to peoples patterns…it’s a good indicator of how life is going to be with this person.
At our age people come…loaded…with their patterns.
Don’t allow someone to blame you for their patterns…it is NOT you…it’s their own patterns.
If they have an explosive temper…you may have triggered it…but it was their own pattern.
People don’t discover they have an explosive temper or bad behaviors at 55 for the first time…it is their own pattern.
Patterns are formed over a lifetime.
Patterns tell a story…don’t discount them with excuses…yours or theirs.
Remember…what you see is what you get.
Don’t convince yourself otherwise…this is how life is going to be with this person.
The upside…good behaviors are also patterns…this is how life will be with this person.
You see a person’s REAL unrestrained true self when you are no longer beneficial to their life.
Don’t wait that long.
