Holding space…..
By definition…means being physically, mentally, and emotionally present for someone. It means putting your focus on someone to support them as they feel their feelings. An important aspect of holding space is managing judgment while you are present.
Caveat:
You don’t wait around and hold space for people to ‘behave better’…you leave…and let them learn to behave better on their own time.
It’s not your job to hold space for a full grown adult to learn basic human decency behaviors like honesty, respect, integrity, kindness, care, politeness etc
If nothing…negative experiences taught me giving repetitive chances to people who abuse those chances is not a requirement.
If someone is comfortable enough to treat you harshly…they should be comfortable enough to find someone else to hold space for their crap.
Holding space for repetitive nonsense is not a requirement…don’t guilt yourself into doing it.
Just because you can explain away or understand the behaviors it doesn’t mean you should excuse or ignore them…at your own detriment.
Arrogance and egotism doesn’t deserve ‘holding space’.
Instead…learn to hold space for yourself and what serves you best.
Learn to hold space for own feelings and your own Peace of Mind…
