Hiding behind ‘relationships’ and a screen…
Some people create and live in a pattern where they engage in serial dating or jumping from relationship to relationship to avoid looking at what’s really going-on on the inside.
They cannot spend any extended time by themselves because if they do they would be forced to deal with the reality of themselves and their so called ‘lifestyles’.
I know this firsthand…I jumped into a situationshit right after I got divorced thinking how lucky could I get!
Bad decision and luck has NOTHING to do with it.
When you are in a low vulnerable place you draw in the same energy…another low vibing energy.
Made me STOP look listen and think…
The STOP was important because I had the chance to figure out what was going on inside of me so I could understand what was going on outside of me…why was I allowing these same kind of personalities into my life repetitively.
Lots of reasons…
But one very important one at the time…I was subconsciously terrified of being alone so instead of dealing with THIS fear I did THAT…and then stayed stuck in my wrong decisions…trying to ‘fix’ it.
My worst decision yet!
I was ultimately able to use my own fear as fuel and pushed myself to do life ‘alone’…and also writing my blog.
It has been a cacophony of emotions but has also been rewarding and fulfilling and most importantly…peaceful!
I had been placing value and prioritizing ALL the wrong people my whole life and forgetting about ME!
If YOU forget about you…they will too!
Serial daters and relationship hoppers believe that if they are able to continually engage with someone…ANYONE it means that they ‘still got it’…it makes them feel validated…like a hit of dope…it’s temporary…so they repeat it.
It actually means the opposite…it actually means you ‘ain’t got nothing’…and you are looking for someone…ANYONE to make you feel whole and complete…to give you that hit of dope.
***Desperation/saddness/grief/fear any negative emotions makes you as vulnerable as an open sore…
It is a very low vibing place to draw in a ‘proper’ partner…you will draw in someone also
at a low energy and lower…like an emotional manipulator.
Emotional manipulators are low vibing and are very shrewd…they look for people at vulnerable junctures in their life.
They will target and seek you out…they are drawn to you like a shark to blood…your open sore***
Vulnerable people are easier to manipulate…and emotional manipulators know this because they have done this before…a predator knows his prey.
When you open yourself up to someone you are opening up your vulnerabilities to another human and trusting that they won’t fux with them and that intention should be mutual for it to work.
Emotional manipulators are NOT that ‘proper’ partner.
They look for your vulnerabilities and then fux with them to your detriment.
No bueno!
Not EVERYONE is operating in this way.
Some people are genuinely trying to find compatibility.
Only YOU know why you are doing what you are doing.
Dating sites are full of these kind of personality types.
You can meet these kinds of people in public as well…like the good ol’ days…like I did.
The source of contact doesn’t enhance this personality type…you can meet them at church and they will be the same kind of deplorable personality.
You are meeting their ‘representative’ at church.
Their ‘true’ self will eventually make an appearance.
The quality of the car engine determines the quality of the car and the ride…not the shiny paint job on the outside.
Some not even ‘shiny’ on the outside
Dating sites make it easy to hump and dump…it’s just another convenient resource for their type of activity.
Ghosting with no accountability is commonplace and operating from behind a screen makes it even easier for cowards and freaks and predators.
If freaky is your thing…you do you booboo
Most times there will not be a second date update when they realize they are not going to be humped at first sight.
I remember that being called love at first sight to make ourselves feel better.
It’s not…
Lots of crying the next day for YOU and another notch on the rear car seat for them
Just kidding…I don’t know where you getting your head banged.
At our age…hopefully at least one of the parties…and I’m hoping that’s YOU…there is a proper mind and Waa Waa connection and the Waa Waa is operating independently from your mindless decisions…and vice-versa…it’s a joint venture…so you can quickly identify these common trickster fools.
Regardless…dating at 50 plus is quite the difficult experience considering all the excess baggage we have ALL accumulated.
It seems like a fruitless experience and makes me wonder if Every little thing gonna be alright…
Bob Marley said that…not me!
So for y’all out there looking for compatible love…good luck爛
And for those cowards and freaks and predators…I believe one of your playgrounds is called Tinder.
PS…
As per usual…these are MY own perspectives and MY thoughts and MY process…it need not be yours.
Use your own Waa Waa!
The dating experience may be fruitless but I got some good ‘almost’ dating on-line stories in the past 4 years that you know I will share with you
I can sense a few more stalking monitoring spirits shitting a brick right now來
I got a screen too and at least one good non-Arthritic trigger finger✍️
