There is a difference between putting in effort into a relationship verses struggling in a relationship.
Toxic people make you struggle…they keep the situationshit in first gear and reverse…by toggling in and out of the relationship and blaming you for their indecisiveness.
The only effort they put in is to push that thing into reverse.
Struggling to keep your head above water in a relationship is a sure sign you need to jump off that sinking boat.
Specially if your ‘partner’ is the one handing you concrete blocks and dunking your head into the water.
** Trust means…I can rely on you to capitalize on me keeping my best interest in mind… and not to capitalize on me for your own interest **
THAT is something a Narcissist is not capable of doing…
Being in a Narcissistic relationship is a slow descent into nothingness…the deeper you descend the harder the climb out to save yourself.
Effort verses Struggle learn to recognize the difference.