You have not walked in my shoes…
Get over it…move on…why is it taking so long…are all insensitive words to someone who is healing from betrayal/abuse/grief/death.
‘It takes 2 to tango’ is not a viable justification to someone who has been through emotional abuse… because it ONLY takes ONE to be abusive.
The same with grief …’he is in a better place’…’he’s not suffering anymore’…though coming from a good place…seems senseless to someone who has lost a loved one.
Someone said to me…you still cry when you speak about Robbie…as if grief for someone I knew and loved for 30 years of my life is contingent to time lapse…or their ignorance, or what happens to be their time line requirements.
How do you respond to such an absurd statement…
You have not walked in my shoes…
I’ve had people read my blog…and then think it’s appropriate to say…’you are damaged’.
Ironically enough that same person’s ex messaged me thanking me for my insight on master manipulators….
My God has a sense of humor!
The irony of it all!
Emotionally abused people are wounded by other people’s careless treatment and have survived a great deal of trauma.
Calling people damaged is condescending and very flippant…. considering you have possibly never had to endure any of it…or maybe you are the cause of someone else’s trauma…
Something to think about!
People’s careless words and actions are what is damaging to our Souls.
Mindless insensitive clichés are the worst kind of responses.
It’s hard to relate when you have not been through the same experiences…or maybe you are too self-centered to be considerate or compassionate.
Choose your words carefully.
Words are damaging…once they come out of your mouth they cannot be retracted.
You have not walked in my shoes…
If you can’t be supportive…just don’t be anything at all…
