Living My New Reality
Even a Narcissist serves a purpose...they are our BEST teachers.They are sent into your life to poke at your vulnerabilities.They too are soul mates sent to expose wounds for you to heal. Band-aids won't work anymore...It's major surgery.People are sent into your lives to mirror your core wounds to you.(not EVERYONE is a narcissist...some are just your plain garden variety
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A cliché we randomly use.I learned the REAL meaning of that cliché. Naively and without discernment...I placed my trust in the hands of the wrong undeserving person who had no intention of protecting my heart or valuing my soul or my life. I felt I died....From humiliation and embarrassment.Because I did not protect myself or listen to my intuition.Because I
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There are no winners or losers when people resort to playing mind games in relationships...just chaos and confusion...but there are always consequences.People leverage manipulative mind games in relationships for control.Most manipulators know what they are doing...it's a tried and true technique.Very few don't realize they are doing it.They use manipulation as their coping mechanism to 'try' to bring things under
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How long and to what extent can we betray our own selves.Sometimes it's a whole lifetime if we are living in denial inside an illusion. For me...I allowed someone to pick me up and throw me out of car because he didn't want to be accountable for some thing he had done...so he chose to cover that up by doing
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I wrote this article 2 years ago for a Narcissistic Support Forum...when I was spinning in the tornado.I am not in that place anymore... Thankfully.It's a harrowing, diabolical, cruel, mind boggling, insane experience.I managed to rescue and save my own self with my research and my own effort. This is my experience with Trauma Bonding with the abuser. The reason
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Passion or Lust is a powerful emotion....one of the strongest emotions we can experience.It's a Primal emotion. Having Passion for someone is not always a positive thing.Passion can actually be quite selfish and destructive...unless it is accompanied with love and respect.Passion without love and respect...dies...quickly. People who confuse passion for love...go from one person to another trying to recreate what
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A safe relationship is one where you feel seen, heard, supported, valued, loved, cherished, you can be vulnerable and share your feelings. Lack of safety in a relationship occurs when you feel manipulated, gaslighted(bullshitted), minimized, dismissed, devalued, trivialize, unable to express your feelings...out of fear. A safe environment is a place where we can completely be ourselves without being judged.
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You see peoples true self during conflict or adversity. How well people handle conflict will let you know how successful a partnership will be. If they are avoidant and dismissive and blame you for everything...or run away...that's how life is going to be with this person...don't expect that things will be better next time around...it won't. If they they have
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NO ONE can take that away from you. Don't allow your experiences to define you or take away your power or your worth. Not realizing there were people around me who would take advantage of my kindness...I compromised myself.I allowed someone to rattle my stability. I felt 'victimized' and 'traumatized' when I realized the situation and the kind of person
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Some people may have been through traumatic events as children that scarred them for life.Some may have gone through something very painful as adults that has altered their perception of relationships. We should feel compassion and empathy for the people who have hurt us because they were just acting out the pain that was inside them...pain that was caused to
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