Living My New Reality
Humpty Dumpty moments occur in our lives to stop something in it's tracks because we were not able to stop it ourselves.It all comes tumbling down.We couldn't put Humpty together again. It's the Universes way to remove things from our lives that are not meant to be there.It's a Divine Detour.This thing happening to us now is a Divine Detour.
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You can be ANYBODY you want to be but you cannot be who you once were....You cannot go back to where, what or who you once were.You cannot go back to your past no matter how much you romanticize it...whether it's your youth, people, places, things, relationships etc.EVERYTHING good, bad or ugly happens for a reason.EVERYONE you meet serves a
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We love in the same way we want to be loved.If you observe how your partner loves...you can tell how he or she wants to be loved.A smart partner will observe, learn and deliver.The '5 Languages of Love' is a general guide of how your partner feels loved.The rest is up to you to figure out.A practical person will relate
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People do what they do in the way they know how to do it, based on who they are and the information that is available to them from their own experiences. Even our beloved Narcissists, our regular garden variety arseholes, liars, cheaters and adulterers...do what they have experienced...they do what they know.They interact in the ONLY way they know how...that
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We ALL have expectations...from our family members, kids, friends, colleagues, employers, employees, pets etc.EVERYONE that we have a relationship with...we have expectations from them...and vice versa.I expect my dog to not shit on my carpet... because I trained him...those are my expectations.My dog expects me to feed him...because he trained me...those are his expectations of me.We have expectations from EVERYONE
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We ALL come with self sabotaging behaviors that we have learned from our families, past relationships, for self preservation...etc.Some are more harmful than others. The epiphanies you have after being a part of a challenging Narcissistic relationship is well worth the horrific experience.It is a painful, foundation shattering experience...that I will absolutely NEVER repeat.Being dragged through broken glass is a
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You know a person has really changed when you get voluntary accountability...because they know their words are worthless at this point. Have you ever asked a toddler to say I'm sorry to another toddler?THAT is a meaningless apology...because they turn around and do the same thing again. Adults also behave in the same way. The Elements of a Good Apology...Say
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People who have been hurt find it very difficult to commit.For good reason.Once bitten twice shy.Unless they work on their pain and trauma and get rid of the baggage...without dropping it on to some one else's lap...it's going to reappear...its not going to disappear just because you want it to.It's takes a lot of effort and courage to heal.A hurt
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Having integrity means doing the right thing in a reliable way…even when NO one is watching. It's a personality trait that we admire, since it means a person has a moral compass that doesn't waver. It literally means having "wholeness" of character There have been many eye opening moments in my past 5 years.The biggest and the most distressing was
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Now...my own story sounds so preposterous to me.With my blinders off...I can now see the WHOLE picture.Once the cognitive dissonance faded and I started seeing clearly...I wondered...how did I allow ALL this crap into my life and be ok with it. This is how...It's life long grooming...Life long grooming by family, environment, culture, country, husbands, relationships etc.My WHOLE belief system
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