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Limerence or Love….

(I found this very interesting explanation of a very common phenomenon that we all experience to some degree at different points in our lives.I did not write it.I took factual pertinent excerpts and added my own to it) Limerence is a state of mind which results from a romantic attraction to another person and typically includes obsessive thoughts and fantasies

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What a difference a year makes…

I wrote this post last year... 5 years ago, today, I was presented with a Sliding Door moment...a fork in the road...I could go right or I could go... wrong...I picked wrong and walked straight into Hell...and then...kept walking around in the darkness...with my eyes closed... hitting into the walls. It was the best wrong move I had ever made.Wrong

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Patterns….

We tend to bind ourselves to  patterns...not necessarily to people...but to patterns with people.We engage with people in patterns...whatever pattern the mind deems as comfortable...or we 'think' works the best...and if it  doesn't work with one person we will try the same technique on the next one.We change the person...not the pattern.The more toxic or dysfunctional the pattern the more

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Limbo…How low can you go?

Narcissism is a spectrum.Healthy Narcissism to NPD to Psychopathy.Narcissism is just a measuring gauge of insecurities.The higher the insecurities the higher the Narcissistic tendencies to compensate.Simplistically, Narcissistic people are just ultra insecure people.(Realistically...there is a lot more to the disorder) Narcissistic people are drawn to the insecurities and vulnerabilities in YOU.You and me don't prey on people's vulnerabilities as a

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Closure….

By definition...Closure means finality.A letting go of what once was. Finding closure implies a complete acceptance of what has happened and an honoring of the transition away from what's finished to something new. Closure is knowing the reason a relationship was terminated and no longer feeling emotional attachment or pain, thereby allowing for the establishment of new and healthy relationships.A

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University of Hard Knocks….

Course Study: Sleeping with the Enemy... An interesting chain of events got me to accomplish a life long hidden ambition.I never got the opportunity to go to college...there were always blockages that kept that from happening.First it was financial, location, then life took over and then there were even more excuses. My last 6 years has been my 'University' experience.University

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Healing and Timelines..

I know what I write about makes EVERYONE squirm in their seats and perhaps for different reasons.Between my Blog, Instagram and FB I know I reach a lot of people who resonate with me in one way or another.People feel vulnerable or exposed to respond directly on my posts but they do message me and let me know what I

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We are not Alone….

We are all connected in some way...either by actual physical connections or by our life experiences.I've known several people who have been through the same life events that I have been through just on different time lines.A strange sequence of events that connects us.An abusive relationship followed by death of a loved one...or the reverse.Seems like a double dose of

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The Truth

Can you talk about what makes your uncomfortable...if you can...you can make it dissipate...and free yourself.The truth is the truth...Do you have the courage to see the truth.Do you have the courage to express the truth...for what it really is...even to yourself.If you can admit the truth...you can free yourself. Have you convinced yourself of your own lie...Have you made

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