Living My New Reality
We tend to bind ourselves to patterns...not necessarily to people...but to patterns with people.We engage with people in patterns...whatever pattern the mind deems as comfortable...or we 'think' works the best...and if it doesn't work with one person we will try the same technique on the next one.We change the person...not the pattern.The more toxic or dysfunctional the pattern the more
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Narcissism is a spectrum.Healthy Narcissism to NPD to Psychopathy.Narcissism is just a measuring gauge of insecurities.The higher the insecurities the higher the Narcissistic tendencies to compensate.Simplistically, Narcissistic people are just ultra insecure people.(Realistically...there is a lot more to the disorder) Narcissistic people are drawn to the insecurities and vulnerabilities in YOU.You and me don't prey on people's vulnerabilities as a
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By definition...Closure means finality.A letting go of what once was. Finding closure implies a complete acceptance of what has happened and an honoring of the transition away from what's finished to something new. Closure is knowing the reason a relationship was terminated and no longer feeling emotional attachment or pain, thereby allowing for the establishment of new and healthy relationships.A
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Things that matter to me and I care about are not the same as what you care about...and vice versa.The things that make me tick are not the same as you.By the same token...I will never feel your pain or grief the way you do.I can sympathize and empathize with you...but I do not feel it like you do...The same
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Course Study: Sleeping with the Enemy... An interesting chain of events got me to accomplish a life long hidden ambition.I never got the opportunity to go to college...there were always blockages that kept that from happening.First it was financial, location, then life took over and then there were even more excuses. My last 6 years has been my 'University' experience.University
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I know what I write about makes EVERYONE squirm in their seats and perhaps for different reasons.Between my Blog, Instagram and FB I know I reach a lot of people who resonate with me in one way or another.People feel vulnerable or exposed to respond directly on my posts but they do message me and let me know what I
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We are all connected in some way...either by actual physical connections or by our life experiences.I've known several people who have been through the same life events that I have been through just on different time lines.A strange sequence of events that connects us.An abusive relationship followed by death of a loved one...or the reverse.Seems like a double dose of
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Can you talk about what makes your uncomfortable...if you can...you can make it dissipate...and free yourself.The truth is the truth...Do you have the courage to see the truth.Do you have the courage to express the truth...for what it really is...even to yourself.If you can admit the truth...you can free yourself. Have you convinced yourself of your own lie...Have you made
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The pain happened...There's no denying that...There's no making that pain disappear...The road to healing has been a painfully tough journey...The only way to get around the pain is finding and appreciating the value in the lesson it provided. EVERYTHING happens for a reason.People are shuffled around in and out of your life for a reason...always for good reason.When you find
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Finding my own sense of Healthy Narcissism within myself was actually what saved me from the Narcissistically abusive situation I had gotten myself involved in.We all need a dose of healthy Narcissism within self to protect ourselves. Narcissism is a spectrum...Healthy Narcissism...to unhealthy Narcissism...to NPD to Psychopath.I have experienced almost the whole spectrum in relationships.I will stop at NPD.And they
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