Emotionally unavailable, avoidant, dismissive, commitment phobic men…(or women)
What does that look like…
1. No accountability…EVER…and absolutely no commitment.
Unable to commit to any future plans…including tomorrows lunch.
2. Not only dwelling on exes but still making them relevant, present and more important than their present partner.
3. Lack of focus on you or the relationship, moody and constantly anxious and unable to explain the reason for their moodiness…you only get to deal with their erratic moods swings.
That’s emotional instability.
Emotional instability eventually leads to mistreatment of the partner (out of no fault of your own)
4. Lacks self confidence and has low self esteem that’s displayed by overly pronounced egoic behaviors…mostly through aggressive manipulative tactics.
5. Timid in showing you attention in public or protecting you.
6. Constantly distracted with the next shiny object that passes by… because they are not really invested in YOU…they are just keeping you around for their convenience.
7. Unable to make decisions…seeks feedback from EVERYONE else to make decisions that relate to the relationship and otherwise.
8.Addictions to anything…be it to substances or to chasing attention and validation from outside of self to provide ‘stability’ within themselves.
9. Living in denial of reality.
10. Chronically lying to cover up their last lie.
11. Unaffected and dismissive of your emotions or concerns.
12. Avoids dealing with issues…by running away…only to come back around to continue the same behaviors…ignoring and refusing to deal with the last unfortunate incident.
We all deal with isolated events such as these in life.
Repetitiveness of these types of patterns should be a BIG red flag of a person who is emotionally unavailable, avoidant, dismissive…and should be left alone to deal and heal.
It’s not your responsibility to fix something that you did not break.
You can only give what you already have…
A broken person is only equipped to break YOU…so beware of such interactions.
