Betrayal….
By definition….
Betrayal is the act of breaking trust or confidence, or being disloyal to someone. It can also refer to the feeling of being harmed by someone’s actions.
Betrayal is NEVER an act from strangers…
Betrayal is ALWAYS an act from someone you know, care about or love.
If they were strangers you wouldn’t give 2 shits.
If you feel betrayed by a person you know/care for/love…
It hurts your heart…
It messes with your sense of trust and knowing.
Betrayals can occur for many reasons…but the underlying reasons are ALWAYS jealousy, envy, insecurities, self hatred, fear, anger.
You can like or love a person and still feel envy and jealousy towards them.
If you sense the energy of jealousy from someone be very sure that they will harm you or betray you in some way down the road…sometimes it takes years.
Over time the negative feelings will overtake the good ones and inevitably results in harm or betrayal.
The feeling of jealousy is a very powerful and complex emotion and can overtake your senses.
Betrayal may occur by abandonment of a friendship/relationship for no reason, criticizing you or ignoring you or your talents or achievements or just trying to harm you or hurting your feelings…with an LOL.
At the very extreme in intimate relationships it comes in the form of infidelity to destroy your peace and trust.
Always remember…
Betrayal has NOTHING to do with you and EVERYTHING to do with them and their dark feelings towards themselves.
The only way to make themselves feel better is to try to make you feel like they are feeling.
It’s human nature…
Misery loves company…
If I’m feeling awful about myself…I resent you feeling good about yourself…so I will try to fuckitup for you…it’s that simple.
Betrayal is ALWAYS a projection of one’s own feelings of themselves…and has NOTHING to do with you.
These feelings of jealousy, anger, resentment, insecurities don’t just disappear…they lurk behind the surface waiting for an outlet.
Pay attention to people’s subtle patterns…
Actions over words…
Patterns over time…
Betraying you is easier than dealing with their own insecurities.
Now we can both be miserable…or at least THAT is their intention.
No one is excluded…you can be betrayed by your own family, spouse, friends, employers, employees, sometimes even your cat…but never a dog.
When there are strong feelings involved…betrayal is always possible.
Otherwise…it wouldn’t hurt.
With emotional manipulators…in addition to innate jealousy, malice, fear and insecurities they will betray you to enforce dominance and control…if they keep you hurt, vulnerable or emotionally spinning out of control with their deceitful antics you will be easier to manipulate.
Betrayal from manipulators not only hurts your heart…they mess with your sense of self…because they betray your core values.
Core values are fundamental beliefs and principles that guide an individual’s actions, decisions, and behaviors, shaping how they interact with the world.
This is an intentional, calculated and cold blooded technique…tried and true…and it will happen again.
So pay heed to these sort of people…it’s NEVER a one and done with them.
And then there are those people who ONLY show up when they need your emotional support or a shoulder to cry on…but are never around to check up on you or won’t even ask about your life when they do call…set firm boundaries with those people…they are time wasters…YOUR time!
They are using you for your ‘resources’…your resources may be your time and energy…
They will talk for hours and when you say something about yourself…they suddenly got busy with something else…yeah those people!
They are always in crisis mode…and ONLY their crisis matters.
These are just energy drainers…
They will occupy your mind with their problems…with little to no reciprocation.
They will not think twice about dropping you…your well-being is not their concern…theirs is!
First…stop making excuses for them.
Change…awww poor them…to awww fuck them!
Second…trust what you see.
Third…set clear boundaries.
Bottom line…
ALWAYS remember when someone betrays you…THEY lost a good loyal person and you lost someone who is not that.
So what YOU may think is a loss is not really a loss…it’s merely good housekeeping.
Getting rid of the dust bunnies in the corner.
Here’s the good news…
Every betrayal exposes not YOUR weakness but the true character of the person…so it’s actually a lesson and a true blessing.
Painful as it may be…
Like a good bowel movement… this too shall pass.
