Living My New Reality
A Narcissists worst nightmare is the TRUTH...They count on your silence...They know you will be too embarrassed or ashamed or fearful to say ANYTHING...When they leave they try to instill fear in you...with bullying tactics.In my case he tried to get me fired from my job and tried to file a restraining order against me when I spoke my truth...to
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Narcissists are chained to their baggage...don't take on any of it as your own...it's awful baggage...they lead an awful life.They cheat because they are cheaters...They lie because they are liars...YOU are none of these things.They ALWAYS end up being lied and cheated on...because they are cheaters and liars.THAT'S called karma...You get what you give.YOU are none of those things...don't carry
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I have always been a believer in a Higher Power.After I got divorced, I jumped right away into a situationship...and everyone knows how that turned out. It was rotten to the core...literally right from the start...By the end of the 'honeymoon phase' of these types of connections which is about a month...it was rotten...but I was determined to 'fix it'.Why
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I was handed knowledge through very painfully harsh experiences...and was also handed the gift of being able to express myself in words...mostly to help myself...but inadvertently helped others.These are painful but very valuable soul stretching experiences that teach you a lot about yourself and others...if you are open to it.I was handed some shit and was also handed a way
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The better question may be what do we grieve?Do you know what you have allowed yourself to grieve over your life time?We associate grief with death.In actuality through our lifetime we go through many types of loss that go unprocessed. Sickness, divorce, breakups, leaving ones county, losing pets, losing jobs, losing friendships etc are ALL a type of loss.Grief is
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By definition...A Hero is a person who is admired or idealized for courage, outstanding achievements, or noble qualities.Trying to rescue people from themselves is not a noble quality or task.Rescuing people is a toxic trait.ANYTHING and EVERYTHING we do is mostly self motivated...it makes us feel good helping others...thats why we do it...thats all well and good until we do
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At first I kicked myself for not leaving in the first month when the toxic toddler appeared and presented me with the first HUGE red flag...I could have saved myself so much grief...and wasted time.I was not aware of red flags at that time...I saw them as birthday balloons...something I could pop and hoped that would be followed by cake.I'm
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Most people's illusion of themselves does not match reality.You will know this by what they say...and then what they actually will do.They will say idealistic stuff to you...people are trained to say the 'right' stuff but their actions show the 'real' stuff.A simple example...someone might say...I would take care of you if you are sick...but when the time comes for
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Who Dey...Sunday.We are ALL born in the likeness of Jesus.He resurrected on the third day...He endured the most...and healed himself.I'm not saying we are Jesus...we are born in his likeness.We ALL can resurrect after enduring the most.We go through many cycles like these in our life...Thats Life...Deal, Heal and resurrect. We heal and resurrect ourselves. He showed us that...In that
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Narcissism is a learned defense mechanism...your reactions to them is also YOUR learned defense mechanism...Our first experience with a Narcissist is usually from a caregiver...that's how we learn to trust the wrong people...and thus experience several through our lives until we wake the hell up...after a lot of agonizing similar relationships.The intention behind both of your reactions is what creates
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