Living My New Reality
A safe relationship is one where you feel seen, heard, supported, valued, loved, cherished, you can be vulnerable and share your feelings. Lack of safety in a relationship occurs when you feel manipulated, gaslighted(bullshitted), minimized, dismissed, devalued, trivialize, unable to express your feelings...out of fear. A safe environment is a place where we can completely be ourselves without being judged.
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You see peoples true self during conflict or adversity. How well people handle conflict will let you know how successful a partnership will be. If they are avoidant and dismissive and blame you for everything...or run away...that's how life is going to be with this person...don't expect that things will be better next time around...it won't. If they they have
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NO ONE can take that away from you. Don't allow your experiences to define you or take away your power or your worth. Not realizing there were people around me who would take advantage of my kindness...I compromised myself.I allowed someone to rattle my stability. I felt 'victimized' and 'traumatized' when I realized the situation and the kind of person
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Some people may have been through traumatic events as children that scarred them for life.Some may have gone through something very painful as adults that has altered their perception of relationships. We should feel compassion and empathy for the people who have hurt us because they were just acting out the pain that was inside them...pain that was caused to
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NPD is a text book mental disorder.They ALL use the same universal patterns of abuse. *The Runner and Chaser game*(This is the foundation of their disorder, this is how the game is played) Asserting dominance in the relationship in a negative way starts very early on.They will hurt you just to provoke a reaction to reassure themselves that you 'still
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Integrity....by definition. ***Having integrity means doing the right thing in a reliable way. It's a personality trait that we admire, since it means a person has a moral compass that doesn't waver. It literally means having "wholeness" of character, just as an integer is a "whole number" with no fractions*** When you live in integrity you live in peace.Choose integrity at every
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When you first meet some one and they seem so easy and non interfering...you think...WOW...this person is so laid back.2 months later you find out laid back is actually emotionally lazy and negligent...non interfering is actually uncaring...and easy means they will easily take from you and offer breadcrumbs in return. When you meet someone who is very childish and silly...you
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An inflated Ego comes from a place of very deep insecurities.We all have Ego...it is a barometer of our self worth. We all go through stages where our Ego gets wounded...we can go in and out of those stages throughout our life...it is a normal human condition. But some people live in Ego...it is their permanent residence...mostly because of some
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It's the foundation of any relationship.If someone is not open to listening to you...they are not good communicators. If they shut you down everytime you say something they are not good communicators. If they rage at you to intimidate you when they don't agree with you...they are not good communicators. If their words don't match their actions and if they
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Dishonesty, deception, egocentric, arrogance, selfishness, apathy, unreliability, disloyalty, rage, etc are examples of negative inherent qualities. If you try to force someone whose inherent quality is lying and cheating...to stop lying and cheating and treat you with respect...that's when you just got the shovel out to dig yourself your own grave. You cannot force some one to change their inherent
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