Living My New Reality
If you don't have a matching set of core values, morals, principles and beliefs between 2 people you could still have a relationship with them but it would be a constant struggle.You can't build anything on an uneven foundation.That would be living in an illusion of what you wish for something to be like.Idealization of an illusion.Believing in an illusion
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June 1stNarcissistic Abuse Awareness Day. A Narcissist should come with a Warning Label...like a Heat Missile. ☆Will Seek and Destroy☆ Or fizzle out trying... ~Paula Pearl~ One Billion of the World's population are afflicted with Narcissistic Personality Disorder. A Narcissistic Abuser is a nasty wake up call from blissful ignorance...a tough lesson to learn in the cruelest of ways. Narcissistic Personality
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Actions ALWAYS speak louder than words.We ALL love to hear sweet words, kind words, loving words, reassuring words.There is a place to express feelings with words but they have to be backed up by actions...otherwise they are just words...words are a dime a dozen.If your words do not match your actions you are trying to manipulate the situation.Emotionally manipulative people's
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Suppressed emotions...Suppressing emotions over a lifetime turns our minds into a toxic self imprisonment.This behavior is perpetuated in relationships.People who are unable to feel, express, articulate their emotions will suppress them out of necessity, fear of expression or habit for self preservation.This may be a learned behavior as a child...usually with parents who feel and speak for the child or
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(I found this very interesting explanation of a very common phenomenon that we all experience to some degree at different points in our lives.I did not write it.I took factual pertinent excerpts and added my own to it) Limerence is a state of mind which results from a romantic attraction to another person and typically includes obsessive thoughts and fantasies
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I wrote this post last year... 5 years ago, today, I was presented with a Sliding Door moment...a fork in the road...I could go right or I could go... wrong...I picked wrong and walked straight into Hell...and then...kept walking around in the darkness...with my eyes closed... hitting into the walls. It was the best wrong move I had ever made.Wrong
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We tend to bind ourselves to patterns...not necessarily to people...but to patterns with people.We engage with people in patterns...whatever pattern the mind deems as comfortable...or we 'think' works the best...and if it doesn't work with one person we will try the same technique on the next one.We change the person...not the pattern.The more toxic or dysfunctional the pattern the more
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Narcissism is a spectrum.Healthy Narcissism to NPD to Psychopathy.Narcissism is just a measuring gauge of insecurities.The higher the insecurities the higher the Narcissistic tendencies to compensate.Simplistically, Narcissistic people are just ultra insecure people.(Realistically...there is a lot more to the disorder) Narcissistic people are drawn to the insecurities and vulnerabilities in YOU.You and me don't prey on people's vulnerabilities as a
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By definition...Closure means finality.A letting go of what once was. Finding closure implies a complete acceptance of what has happened and an honoring of the transition away from what's finished to something new. Closure is knowing the reason a relationship was terminated and no longer feeling emotional attachment or pain, thereby allowing for the establishment of new and healthy relationships.A
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Things that matter to me and I care about are not the same as what you care about...and vice versa.The things that make me tick are not the same as you.By the same token...I will never feel your pain or grief the way you do.I can sympathize and empathize with you...but I do not feel it like you do...The same
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