Living My New Reality
Our scars are a reminder of our healed wounds...Our hard earned lessons.The tougher the lesson the deeper the wound the longer it took for the scar to form.I don't want to forget those lessons.I wear them like a badge of honor to remind myself of how far I've come.Our heart has a different memory capacity as compared to our mind.The
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Emotionally abusive people have a hat full of tricks...tried and true tricks...they use them repetitively and often...because they work.'Let's be friends'...It's part of their abusive arsenal...another cruel trick.If you agree...they will then use you on an as needed basis.You may think they are giving the situationshit another try...they are absolutely NOT.It's just a trap...an abuse death trap.You have just agreed
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People who rush into relationships and get enamored too quickly create a false sense of trust within themselves and you.Don't get too excited or feel flattered...it's not YOU...that's how they ALWAYS operate.Getting intimate quickly creates a false sense of trust.It is a false premise...an illusion...or more appropriately a disillusion.Trust can ONLY be developed over time and getting to know another.Most
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Triangulation is a manipulation tactic whereby one person will introduce a third person into the dynamic...usually an ex or any third party to create a sense of competition to vie for their attention and affection.Sometimes there are multiple players and you may not know they exist.Sometimes you may not even be the actual target in focus...but you were just introduced
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Your interaction with a Narcissist...is ALL about YOU.This is a self-actualization journey.It has nothing to do with the narcissist...and has EVERYTHING to do with YOU.And that's the good news because that means YOU are in total control of your outcome.Chances are you have come across many such people in your lifetime but just didn't know it and you still will
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How many times a day do we give in to something or someone?How many times did it give us a good outcome...a pleasurable feeling😑😔🤨The very fact that we used the term 'giving in' substanciates the fact that we are doing something we are not completely convinced of doing.Of course we all HAVE to do obligatory stuff...where we have no choice...like
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A huge part of this lesson for me...I had to learn to let go.I attached myself to the good I saw in people and held onto it tooth and nail.How could I let go of someone I loved?THAT was not even a thought in my head...EVER!!! That was the way I lived my entire life.I was determined to hang on
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Healing from Narcissistic Abuse is like grieving a death...your own.I count the entire 'relationship' as part of my healing process as well...because the 'nonsense' started in the first month...the rest was just further eroding of my emotional wellbeing.Start to finish almost 6 years of a very tough journey.2 years of a very emotionally damaging experience and almost 4 years in
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Does a label really matter...I've spent a lot of time researching a mental disorder because I needed to understand what I went through and why I went through such an experience.It has been an eye opening experience, an awakening experience, a soul healing experience...one that I do not regret at all...from start to end...but only in hind sight.I call it
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Sometimes we have to bear the consequences of other people's mistakes.That is a very hard pill to swallow.We ALL have been on either side of THAT fence.We may have been the one who made the mistake or we may be the one who are the recipient of the mistake or bad judgement call of others.All we can do is accept
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