Living My New Reality
There is a difference between putting in effort into a relationship verses struggling in a relationship.Toxic people make you struggle...they keep the situationshit in first gear and reverse...by toggling in and out of the relationship and blaming you for their indecisiveness.The only effort they put in is to push that thing into reverse.Struggling to keep your head above water in
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Anyone can get Emotionally abused.People don't get emotionally abused because they are not strong...they get emotionally abused because the abusive person is weak and can only accomplish things through manipulation.It's hard to stop giving people the benefit of the doubt when that is what you are used to doing...it's hard to not trust people...when that is what you are used
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Things to keep in mind while choosing a 'love' interest Candidate.If you get treated REALLY well for @ 3ish months...REMEMBER you are just meeting the persons representative.Once you are past that you get to meet the REAL Candidate.That's called Love Bombing.It's a common campaigning technique.NO ONE can hold up their fake façade for long.***Don't ignore or deny that drop of
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Whatever is happening to you is also happening to others in our world...Imagine that!!Just that awareness is impactful...we are not alone.Just that awareness is healing...we are not alone.We are ALL connected by our experiences.My experiences are not unique to 'just me'.We all go through similar cycles.If I'm falling in love...the same is happening to others...if I'm getting abused right now...well
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The word scapegoating is defined as, “the act or practice of assigning blame or failure to another so as to deflect attention or responsibility away from oneself.” Aka...Denial.In toxic relationships scapegoating is a way to live in denial of one's own faults or failures.Passing the buck to avoid responsibility or accountability for one's own actions.A scapegoat is picked by personality
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By definition...Personal experiences that a person needs to deal with or work on that have not been dealt with or completed. Emotional tasks that have been avoided because of feared emotional or interpersonal repercussions.People who have been hurt find it very difficult to commit.For good reason. Once bitten twice shy.Unless they work on their pain and trauma and get rid
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Most people can handle the truth.Once you find yourself hiding the truth...you have to ask yourself why?Do you have something to hide?Are you afraid?Do you not care if the truth is found out...or is it that you care too much?Most people can handle most truths.The problem occurs when they find out the truth by themselves.Now it's a lie...Lying by omission
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A partner controlling and manipulating you into doing what they want ALL the time is not considered support or compromise.Giving props and accolades to a partner who does something once in a while that they are supposed to be doing in the first place is enabling undesirable behaviors...and then patting them on the back for it.A good intentioned person will
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Toxic/dysfunctional/emotionally unbalanced people engage in back and forth, in and out, on and off dynamics.This push and pull pattern creates a bonding wound with the partner.This bonding wound creates confusion and powerful feelings you struggle to make sense of, especially when its served intermittently with a potent cocktail of kindness, intimacy and the silent treatment.It's cruel, abusive, manipulative and highly
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People will show you exactly what/who is important to them and what/who they are willing to make time for.People will ALWAYS make time for what is important to themselves.DON'T make excuses, deny, disregard or ignore those decisions.THAT is a very clear indication of how you stack up on their totem pole of priorities.How people prioritize you is a good gauge
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