Living My New Reality
An interaction with a narcissist is like an episode of 'Catfish'.NOTHING of what they show you is real...except the emotional abuse.THAT'S real!!!And that too they will deny.The longer you stay with them...the more you will deny the abuse yourself.You are confused between your reality and what they 'tell' you...that's called cognitive dissonance...two opposing 'realities'.That's the whole premise of their dysfunction...they
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People are home...not places...I was born in Kuwait...I lived 25 years of my life there...it was home!I knew nothing else.After the invasion in 1990...all hell broke lose...most families and friends were all dispelled from Kuwait for their own safety.I went back there in 1992...two months after the Liberation.No one was there...it didn't feel like home.My family had left...my childhood friends
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Wherever you go...there you are.Like everyone else's...my home is full of memories.Mostly good...and some not so good.When Robbie died...I spent a week getting rid of his clothes and his medical supplies and the last bits and pieces of his stuff in my home...the sooner I got rid of everything that reminded me of the last 6 months he spent struggling
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My friend who lives in Kuwait...and gratefully so just like EVERYONE else who lives there...during a conversation about life in Kuwait said to me 'at least they allow us to pray in church'. Hmmm...WOW!!! They 'allow' us to pray!!!That's some privilege!!!They take away ALL your freedoms and hand you bits and pieces of breadcrumbs...that makes you feel so grateful.I understand
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By definition....Flying monkeys is a phrase used in popular psychology to describe people who are acting on behalf of another to control a targeted individual.Usually a person of some power is be able to corral support...by money, charm, popularity, fake empathy, gas lighting...just pure bullshit.The unaware support are called flying monkeys.They are blinded by the light...just like you were...in the
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Red Flags...by definition.Something your partner does that indicates a lack of respect, integrity or interest towards the relationship.It's a sign that a person will turn out to be (or is) a problematic partner.I didn't know about red flags...Till at 51 I was 'happily sitting' with a person who wore a neon green hat full of red flags and I still
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EVERYONE has a dark side and a light side...we learn to balance them by our morals, principles, values, integrity etc. Emotionally unbalanced, deviant or toxic people also have light sides but don't have these checks and balances to fall back on...there is an imbalance...they easily get drawn to operate from their dark side...their boundaries are blurry.Initially everyone is drawn to
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** A self-deprecating person knows their own weaknesses and shortcomings and isn't afraid to point them out, often in a humorous way. When being self-deprecating goes too far, it can become self-loathing and self-sabotaging, which are less amusing forms of putting yourself down **Self deprecation...it's an unchecked issue that most people who do it...don't even realize they are doing it.Complain much?Not only are you being unkind to yourself...you are also draining everyone
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We all go through karmic lessons in our life trying to fix the hurt and trauma we have experienced in this lifetime or the past.These are presented in relationships through repetitious patterns and scenarios.These relationships aren’t meant to last but they are learning experiences for those who do go through them.Their main objective in our lives is for us to:*Learn
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Life is full of signs...Family, friends, aquaintances, colleagues ALL show us signs and vice versa that we need to pay attention to.These are some of the important ones. 1. Unease...you body will feel uneasy around certain people...when you don't pay attention to your intuition you will have physical reactions...like a sense of anxiety around them. 2. Dissatisfaction and the lack
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