Living My New Reality
Lust or sex is not the most important ingredient in a relationship.Respect, honor, priority and support are the ingredients that make a relationship work.You can feel lust or have sex with a lot of people.The foundational basis of love is respect, honor and support.You may love as you always love... your love maybe genuine.They too will love you like they
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Emotionally unavailable, avoidant, dismissive, commitment phobic men...(or women)What does that look like...1. No accountability...EVER...and absolutely no commitment.Unable to commit to any future plans...including tomorrows lunch.2. Not only dwelling on exes but still making them relevant, present and more important than their present partner.3. Lack of focus on you or the relationship, moody and constantly anxious and unable to explain the
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**Liminal” comes from the Latin root word "limen," which means “threshold.” Liminal spaces are transitional or transformative spaces. They are the waiting areas between one point in time and space and the next***Liminal space...a point of no return...you can't ignore or deny what you now know. Where you are is in-between the familiar and the completely unknown.Death, abuse or any
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Jealousy...By definition....A feeling of unhappiness caused by wanting what someone else has. Jealousy is a very dangerous ingredient when introduced into a relationship.A jealous energy will ALWAYS cause you harm...eventually...if you choose to ignore this red flag.It can be very conscious or very subconscious.Why...because they want something you have...and if they can't get it they will try to destroy it
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People seem to think that those who write blogs and share material on fb or other platforms think of themselves as not having personal issues or are better than others...That is absolutely NOT true!I can only speak for myself....EVERYTHING that I write about I have experienced or am still dealing and healing from.I am able to put into words what
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Jumping from one relationship to another does not heal your core wounds that were the problem in your relationships to begin with...they just exacerbate them and hurt others.Other people cannot heal your wounds...ONLY YOU can heal your own wounds.But you sure as hell can make other people responsible for your internal problems by dragging and dumping your emotional garbage onto
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Abuse is not something you should heal from and then give the same person a second chance to repeat the same behaviors.That would be insulting your own intelligence...much like they did.Abusive people don't fix what they broke.They just repeat the same behaviors again if you allow them to...with you or the next person.You cannot heal from the same mind set
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Narcissistic people will create a cruel scenario whereby they 'make' you leave them because they have found someone else to get supply from...temporarily.Do you realize how fucked up that is...Unknowingly...this happened to me 9 times in 2.5 years till I caught on to it.A Narcissist will 'make' you intentionally leave them so that they can CHEAT on you...and then tell
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By definition...To agree not to argue anymore about a difference of opinion.For example he likes golf and his wife likes tennis, so when it comes to sports, they have agreed to disagree.This is a personal pet peeve of mine and one that I have learned to pay very close attention to.People use this statement willy-nilly to hid behind habitual bad
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Emotional abusers are ALL the same and survivors are also ALL the same.Survivors can relate and resonate with each others story.Emotional abusers also can relate to each other but they don't have support groups for abusive people🙃Their own denial supports them fully.The feelings are the same...The pain is the same...The grief is the same...And the pain of the betrayal is
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