Living My New Reality
At first I kicked myself for not leaving in the first month when the toxic toddler appeared and presented me with the first HUGE red flag...I could have saved myself so much grief...and wasted time.I was not aware of red flags at that time...I saw them as birthday balloons...something I could pop and hoped that would be followed by cake.I'm
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Most people's illusion of themselves does not match reality.You will know this by what they say...and then what they actually will do.They will say idealistic stuff to you...people are trained to say the 'right' stuff but their actions show the 'real' stuff.A simple example...someone might say...I would take care of you if you are sick...but when the time comes for
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Who Dey...Sunday.We are ALL born in the likeness of Jesus.He resurrected on the third day...He endured the most...and healed himself.I'm not saying we are Jesus...we are born in his likeness.We ALL can resurrect after enduring the most.We go through many cycles like these in our life...Thats Life...Deal, Heal and resurrect. We heal and resurrect ourselves. He showed us that...In that
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Narcissism is a learned defense mechanism...your reactions to them is also YOUR learned defense mechanism...Our first experience with a Narcissist is usually from a caregiver...that's how we learn to trust the wrong people...and thus experience several through our lives until we wake the hell up...after a lot of agonizing similar relationships.The intention behind both of your reactions is what creates
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Get rid of your measuring tape boyz to men...We don't care about your 4 to 6 GPA.No one will ask to see your 'transcripts' after 50...either in person or virtually.It would be nice if you still got them...but we are looking for other credentials to back that thang up.Those 'transcripts' made you look attractive only at your first two or
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Welcome Home' my home said to me... Come baitho...I have missed you... let me make you some tea. It's a little late for tea...but I am hungry...can you make me dosa. Of course I can...I have some frozen ones just for you beta...Please aao aur mere paas baitho....you want chutney or brinjal pickle...you always want both...I said I've missed you
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I waited my whole life for someone else to make my Birthday special...Then I realized...that 'someone else' was ME...My friends made my 55th birthday pretty special...I got to jump out of a cake...bucket list stuff for me.I'm grateful to them for that experience...it was a pretty memorable event for me.The next 2 birthdays I threw myself my own party.Last year
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Miss Evelyn M. Ryan ...When I see your posts about your beautiful Alex...I find them adorable and it triggers a little green jelly in me...not in a bad way...but in a 'I want' way...which is what jealousy is all about anyway...right? I want to feel...I want to be...I want to have...I want.....That was an alien feeling to me...I thought. I'm
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A Holiday Special....Love...unconditional or conditional.By definition....Unconditional means not subject to any conditions.The distinction between unconditional love and conditional love...conditional love is "earned" on the basis of conscious or unconscious conditions being met by the other person, whereas in unconditional love, love is "given freely" to the loved one "no matter what". Loving is primary.Children and pets love unconditionally.Your unconditional love
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If trauma is not processed in a healthy manner...the abused can very easily become the abuser.A very good example of that would be how Child Molesters are more often than not molested as children themselves.Emotionally abusive people are also a direct product and a perfect example of the abused becoming abusive.When people experience trauma as children or even as an
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