Living My New Reality
Reactive abuse...By definition....Reactive abuse is an in-the-moment reaction to mistreatment from another person.When a victim reacts, the abuser uses this reaction to impart further abuse in the form of blame-shifting and gaslighting.When a person tells you how badly they treated another person...DO NOT disregard that information.In my case it was a play by play of what was in store for
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My project or yours...The art of letting go...It's a learned skill...It doesn't come naturally...I remember a 'friend' telling me 'You don't know how to let go'.Huh!THAT statement was absolutely true...It was a very important realization for me...Sometimes people say stuff that just clicks in your head.That's why I share what I share...something might just make sense to you at some
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A thief/liar/cheater finds it difficult to trust others...They always assume others will play them the same way they play others.They judge others just as they are themselves.By the same token...A kind/honest/trustworthy person will also assume everyone is that way...If I'm honest I will assume EVERYONE is also honest...If I'm an liar I will assume EVERYONE is also a liar...We ALL
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Know the difference...There is a difference between a mistake and manipulations.A mistake is usually followed by an explanation, an apology, accountability, genuine remorse...some form of genuine recourse to correct the mistake.A manipulation is followed by none of the above...Manipulations are followed by a lack of accountability, gaslighting, denial, blame shifting, undermining, more manipulations and if you surrender to it...you will
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Mistakes are merely course corrections....We are allowed to make mistakes...it's part of our Soul's growth.Lord knows we ALL have...Over and over and over...right!I am a professional at mistakes.But I call them course corrections.That's the ONLY way we can learn and course correct.We have to be able to see things clearly to be able to course correct.My karmic family...my greatest teachers...My
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Where's my Baby Boy...Where's my Mommy...Mommy issues...By definition..."Mommy issues" is a term used to describe psychological or emotional challenges that can arise from a person's relationship with their mother or another female figure during childhood or adolescence. These issues can lead to difficulties in forming and maintaining healthy relationships in adulthood. Do you feel you are constantly getting in relationships
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Priorities.... People will show you exactly what/who is important to them and what/who they are willing to make time for.**People will ALWAYS make time for what is important to them in their lives***DON'T make excuses/deny/disregard or ignore those decisions.THAT is a very clear indication of how you stack up on their totem pole of priorities.How people prioritize you is a
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Manipulation....By definition....What is manipulative behavior?Manipulative behavior occurs when a person uses controlling and harmful behaviors to avoid responsibility, conceal their true intentions, or cause doubt and confusion. Manipulation tactics, such as gaslighting, lying, blaming, criticizing, and shaming, can damage a person's psychological well-being.Manipulation can be done in an obvious malicious way by using the above techniques...that's more what we are
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Forgiveness....By definition...Forgiveness is a gift of love and trust to yourself...and others.It's not condoning another's bad behaviors, but releasing your own resentment and anger toward them.Resentment, disgust, disappointment, anger, sadness, grief etc. are ALL normal feelings after being fucked over...it's a human response and process...it means you have the capacity to care and love and feel.You should be more concerned
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We do what we think works...We learn to be manipulative as children...It's part of growing up...We are learning to use our 'tools'...We will repeat what we 'think' works again and again...But even as a kid there is a difference in the kind of manipulation...and says a lot about the kind of person you are dealing with.For example...We have one kid
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