A Valentine’s Day nugget to protect your Beautiful Heart❤️
People pick partners based on their needs at the time…
Some people’s needs are superficially based and some are not.
So if your ‘needs’ are motivated by social standing, sex, money, housing, looks, cars, prestige or power you will pick a partner based on that superficial stuff.
(Whether you are willing to admit it or not…your superficiality will eventually shine through 😉)
If YOU bring these type of people Love…they cannot see it because THAT is not their motivation.
Will they take it…
They absolutely will…it’s a freebie from you…but you will not get loved in return…you might get some superficial stuff…even grief…and abuse…but NO LOVE.
If you are superficially motivated don’t be surprised when you meet your match and attract gold diggers…
If you don’t understand the concept…ironically Kanye West’s song Gold Digger will help you😉😜
Just make sure you have some REAL gold before you call someone a gold digger💰
Cause what YOU may think is gold may look like kaka💩 to someone else🤭
***You are what you practice***
Past history of a person does not lie.
So while you may be motivated by love…they are looking for what they need at that time…something more superficial.
Your needs are incongruent and neither people is getting what they ‘need’…the relationship is bound to get ugly.
Just like you will project your need for love onto them…they too will project their ‘need’ onto you and may think you are motivated in the same way they are…superficially.
If someone leads a promiscuous lifestyle they automatically think you are as well…and will treat you as such.
An over zealous sexual approach is a red flag🚩if THAT’S not what you are looking for.
If THAT’S your thing…its almost a green flag⛳️😉….f*ck away!
By the same token if you are a kind person…you think EVERYONE else is kind…
That is absolutely NOT true!
So if someone comes with a lot of love…wearing their heart on their sleeve consider yourself a lucky person…they are leading with their heart…a rarity.
Your superficiality will NOT satisfy their need.
Finding someone with the same needs as you is NOT as common or easy as you think.
Most relationships are based on something other than love.
We tend to value our relationships based on how it looks on paper.
So if someone shows you or tells you they don’t ‘deserve’ you or they can’t give you what you want or need…BELIEVE THEM…don’t try to convince them that they are worthy of your time, energy and love by lowering your standards to meet theirs…they already told you they are not capable!
THEY know themselves best…and NOW so do you…because they told you so!
BELIEVE THEM.
Someone offering you their Love is life’s most precious gift.
Cherish it because if they take it away someone else is getting that precious gift 🎁
The gift of your Presence and Love.
Happy Valentine’s Day from my Heart to yours❤️💘💕❣️💖
