Living My New Reality
Ruining holidays...business as usual....With the holidays around the corner...we ALL hope for a wonderful time of fun food family friends and festivities. We are here to make memorable memories...right?Not when you are dealing with a Narcissist...Narcissistic people ruin holidays or any special events to make it memorable...It's their favorite demoralizing gift to you for any event.Unfortunately...It's ALWAYS in hindsight when
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A Happy Accident...Toxic people will try to test you to see if you will validate them.They will treat you badly to see if you 'really' want to hang around with them...they use negative reinforcement to get a desired result.If you do validate their 'game' then it's off to the races...YOU have just agreed to and set up a precedence of
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All Inclusive trip to Hell and back....I remember so very clearly how I felt coming out of a 2.5 year Narcissistic relationship in July of 2017.It was an atrocious experience...It was so very painful...I was emotionally spinning out of control...did not know which way was up down back or front.I am usually a very grounded person...all 4 always on the
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Learning to deal with clearance rack energies....When someone treats you badly and then says...I just want you to be happy...That's called gaslighting the truth to support their bad behaviors. Take your toys and run far away🏃♀️***ALWAYS remember...Pay attention to people's actions not to their words***Their actions are the truth of who they really are...They are 'saying' they want you to
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Hiding behind 'relationships' and a screen...Some people create and live in a pattern where they engage in serial dating or jumping from relationship to relationship to avoid looking at what's really going-on on the inside.They cannot spend any extended time by themselves because if they do they would be forced to deal with the reality of themselves and their so
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Reactive abuse...By definition....Reactive abuse is an in-the-moment reaction to mistreatment from another person.When a victim reacts, the abuser uses this reaction to impart further abuse in the form of blame-shifting and gaslighting.When a person tells you how badly they treated another person...DO NOT disregard that information.In my case it was a play by play of what was in store for
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My project or yours...The art of letting go...It's a learned skill...It doesn't come naturally...I remember a 'friend' telling me 'You don't know how to let go'.Huh!THAT statement was absolutely true...It was a very important realization for me...Sometimes people say stuff that just clicks in your head.That's why I share what I share...something might just make sense to you at some
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A thief/liar/cheater finds it difficult to trust others...They always assume others will play them the same way they play others.They judge others just as they are themselves.By the same token...A kind/honest/trustworthy person will also assume everyone is that way...If I'm honest I will assume EVERYONE is also honest...If I'm an liar I will assume EVERYONE is also a liar...We ALL
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Know the difference...There is a difference between a mistake and manipulations.A mistake is usually followed by an explanation, an apology, accountability, genuine remorse...some form of genuine recourse to correct the mistake.A manipulation is followed by none of the above...Manipulations are followed by a lack of accountability, gaslighting, denial, blame shifting, undermining, more manipulations and if you surrender to it...you will
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Mistakes are merely course corrections....We are allowed to make mistakes...it's part of our Soul's growth.Lord knows we ALL have...Over and over and over...right!I am a professional at mistakes.But I call them course corrections.That's the ONLY way we can learn and course correct.We have to be able to see things clearly to be able to course correct.My karmic family...my greatest teachers...My
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